We’re constantly bombarded with messages about how to have better sex, orgasms, and relationships. But rarely do we get the practical advice we need to truly understand and enhance our intimate lives. Vanessa Marin, a sex therapist, is here to offer some insights. No topic is off-limits, and all questions remain anonymous. Today, we’re diving into how to seduce your partner, whether it’s a man or a woman.
Q: My boyfriend and I have been together for two years. We’re madly in love, but our sex life has become a bit stale. I recently saw a TV show where one character seduces another, and it made me sad that my boyfriend and I no longer experience that kind of newness. Is it still possible to seduce your partner even after being together for a while?
A: Absolutely! It’s normal for sex to become routine in a long-term relationship. The early days of fiery passion often give way to comfort and familiarity. But that doesn’t mean you can’t reignite the spark. Here are eight practical ways to bring seduction back into your relationship:
- Initiate at Unexpected Times
- Surprise your partner by initiating sex at unexpected moments. Instead of the usual bedtime routine, try first thing in the morning or right after they step out of the shower.
- Be a Tease
- Engage in playful teasing when sex isn’t an option, like during dinner or at the movies. Tell your partner what you want to do later. During sex, prolong the process. Bring your partner to the brink of orgasm, then back off and make them wait before continuing.
- Surprise Them at the Door
- Use the element of surprise. Get home before your partner one day, take their hand, and lead them straight to the bedroom. Or greet them wearing nothing at all.
- Plan a Romantic Weekend Getaway
- Organize a trip for just the two of you and surprise your partner with the news. Even a one-night stay in a local Airbnb can reignite the romance and provide a refreshing change of scenery.
- Send Flirty Messages
- Throughout the day, send flirty or suggestive texts to build anticipation. This keeps the excitement alive and lets your partner know you’re thinking about them.
- Try New Things Together
- Experiment with new activities or experiences in the bedroom. This could be anything from role-playing to trying out new toys or positions. Keeping things fresh and adventurous can reignite passion.
- Focus on Foreplay
- Don’t rush. Spend extra time on foreplay to build anticipation and make the experience more enjoyable for both of you.
- Create a Romantic Setting
- Set the mood with candles, music, and a clean, inviting space. A romantic atmosphere can make a huge difference in enhancing intimacy.
Bringing seduction back into your relationship is about breaking the routine and adding a bit of mystery and excitement. These small changes can make a significant impact on your connection and help rekindle the passion you share.
