Age differences in relationships are often less important than you might think and can even be beneficial. While everyone has their own preferences, dating someone older can be a rewarding experience. Most of my partners have been a few years older, and it has worked out well. The older you get, the less the age gap seems to matter, but there’s still something special about dating someone with more life experience. For example, they might be better at cooking—it’s how I learned you shouldn’t make scrambled eggs in the microwave (trust me, don’t do it).
Paula Hall, a relationship psychotherapist, told the BBC that older partners bring valuable life experiences that younger partners can learn from, while the younger partner can offer a fresh perspective. If you need further convincing, just look at Jay-Z and Beyoncé, who have a 12-year age gap. Want to be like Beyoncé? Here are five reasons to date someone a bit older:
- The Maturity Factor
Someone older has (hopefully) gained some maturity and perspective. Remember those things you overreacted to at 15? You’ll likely cringe at your current overreactions in a few years. Having a partner with more experience can help you not sweat the small stuff.
- They Have Experience
How does one handle taxes, pay a water bill, or set up a futon? Someone older has probably tackled these challenges a few times and can show you the ropes. Adulting is hard, so having a guide is invaluable.
- The Sexpertise
At some point, most people get tired of unsatisfying sex and start being open about their desires. An older partner may have reached this point, leading to better sex for both of you because you can focus on mutual enjoyment instead of being self-conscious.
- Only One of You Is Quarter Life Crisis-ing at a Time
One benefit of an age difference is that the older partner might have their life more together. While it can be comforting to share the uncertainty of your 20s, having a more settled partner can keep you grounded and remind you that everything will be fine.
- Age Ain’t Nothing But a Number
Ultimately, it depends on the person. These reasons might be true for many people, but not necessarily for everyone. Age is just a number, and people grow at different rates. Someone 10 years older might be at a similar emotional age or life stage as you. See how it feels, and don’t stress about a few years’ difference.
