Some say you can’t help who you fall in love with, but does the same apply to who you choose to sleep with? Attraction doesn’t always mean acting on it, especially when the object of desire is married. For some, a wedding ring is a clear boundary, while for others, it’s part of the thrill. Here, eight women share their intense reasons for sleeping with a married man.
- The Thrill of It
- Jenny D., 31: “I loved the thrill of sleeping with a guy I knew was married. He was 10 years older, and I just liked knowing that what we were doing was so wrong and that it was never going to be more than what it was: an affair that I will always remember.”
- Unknowingly Involved
- Colby S., 23: “I met a guy at a bar one night, and we ended up sleeping together. I found out the next morning, when I looked at his phone and the background was a wedding picture of him and another woman, that he was married. I called him out on it, and he didn’t flinch. It seemed to be something he does a lot when his wife is out of town. I was disgusted with him and myself.”
- False Promises
- Vivian W., 26: “I was one of those tricked girls who thought the married guy would leave his wife for me. I really did — that’s why I slept with him and that’s why I fell in love with him. We slept together for two years, and every month, he’d tell me that he was getting a divorce. By year two, I realized he never was and I was never going to have him as just my guy.”
- The Forbidden Allure
- Jess P., 26: “What I loved about sleeping with someone who was married was that he just seemed more regal and more mature than guys I know who are single and players. The hook-up wasn’t something short and stupid. It was an experience. It was fun thinking maybe we’d get caught. In some weird way, it made me more attracted to this guy just knowing that I could never have him. I loved the chase.”
- Mutual Infidelity
- Raquel R., 35: “I ended up having an affair with my neighbor while he was married and so was I. I didn’t feel as guilty since we were both messing up our marriages at the same time. We ended up both getting divorced and never getting together.”
- A Dare Gone Too Far
- Claire S., 27: “One of my friends dared me to try to hook up with her boss, who was super hot, but also married for, like, three years. I thought he was so attractive, and at their holiday party, I made a move. His wife wasn’t there, and he took my bait. We ended up sleeping together and then never talking or seeing each other again.”
- Being Pursued
- Kerri D., 33: “In some strange way, I didn’t think having sex with a married man was a bad thing since he was chasing after me. I never was the one asking him to hook up. He was the one willing to ruin his marriage, not me.”
- Regret and Guilt
- Gloria G., 39: “I developed a crush on a guy I worked with who was married, and one thing led to another. It’s hard to explain how or why, but it did. I made a big mistake and have never felt so guilty about something in my life. I ruined his marriage. He helped ruin it, but I played a part in tearing it apart.”
These women’s stories highlight the complex and often intense emotions involved in their decisions to sleep with a married man, revealing the various motivations and subsequent feelings of thrill, regret, and introspection.
